Some Proverbs to Live By

Do you have a proverb?

If you have a proverb to live by that belongs here, send it along to the Chair of the Social Committee social@pembertonfamily.com

Boldly Speak the Simple Truth

We love people who do this, and especially if they know how to do it with a smile when the truth if difficult. Politicians who make this their ruling principle, are in danger of being called statesmen. If you want respect, respect the truth by boldly speaking it.

Anger Can Save Your Life

Anger and resentment may be prideful protection of a personal agenda threatened by the ravages of truth and love.

Just like pain can warn us of trouble, so anger and frustration can be a wake up call that we are deceiving ourselves or refusing to openly and thoughtfully re-examine some previous decision that is trying to prove to us that we made a mistake. In that case, the big mistake is to continue the self-imposed blindness.

Love is a Act of Choice

Hollywood is famous for indoctrinating us with the notion that love just happens or it doesn’t. The truth is, we choose to love. We may make the choice in many tiny increments. The typical divorce is a good illustration of this process. A couple “falls in love” by choosing to like most of what the other party is and does, and then one by one they begin to choose not to love certain traits or failings and slowly (or rapidly as the perceived needs of the party may dictate) they fall out of love – by the choices they make. A particular life experience comes to mind. I once saw a young boy who was filthy, ugly and inarticulate. I found myself in revulsion and then, born of pity I’m sure, I began to realize that I was making this choice – to abhor or to love. At the same moment I realized that my choice would determine not what he was, for he was what he was, but what kind of person I would be.

King James I’s opinion on smoking tobacco: 1604

This isn’t a proverb by any means, but it is something to wonder at and live by.

Have you not reason then to bee ashamed, and to forbeare this filthie noveltie, so basely grounded, so foolishly received and so grossely mistaken in the right use thereof? In your abuse thereof sinning against God, harming your selves both in persons and goods, and raking also thereby the markes and notes of vanitie upon you: by the custome thereof making your selves to be wondered at by all forraine civil Nations, and by all strangers that come among you, to be scorned and contemned. A custome lothsome to the eye, hatefull to the Nose, harmefull to the braine, dangerous to the Lungs, and in the blacke stinking fume thereof, neerest resembling the horrible Stigian smoke of the pit that is bottomelesse.

Taking Offense

Never take offense at what someone says or does without first carefully thinking for at least 24 hours about whether you should or not decide so to do.